Oh, the anxious-avoidant dance. This relationship often seems doomed to fail, but that isn’t always the case (although, sometimes, it is, and that’s okay too). While we know that no relationship is perfect (because no one is perfect), the anxious-avoidant partnership is a little more complicated.

Why cuddling on the couch is sexy

Staying in, ordering take out, and sharing a bottle of wine while watching Netflix. Does that say romance to you? No? Maybe it should. I’m talking about lasting romance. The kind of relationship based on security and communication.

Can it last? Do you want it to last?

Do you remember your first love? The first time you fell head over heels for someone and those feelings were returned? Chances are you could think about little else. You felt as if you’d met your soulmate, your one true love. You were certain no one else had ever felt that way and that your love would last forever.

Did you ever write your initials and those of your crush’s inside of a heart? Or spend time doodling hearts in the margins of your math homework? I know I wasn’t the only one! When you got your first box of candy for Valentine’s Day, chances are the box was in the shape of a heart.

What comes to mind when you think about slot machines? Smoke-filled Vegas casinos with little old ladies perched on stools pulling levers? Bright colors and pictures of fruit spin dizzyingly. And every once in a while, the sound of bells ringing and coins clanging fills the air.