Selfless
(adj.) those who are selfless have low self-esteem with no grasp of their own inherent worth.
Most believe that receiving love is contingent upon giving. They give away a part of themselves to receive love and positive attention. People who are selfless struggle to maintain interpersonal relationships. They spend far more time doing for others than learning to meet their own needs, and all attempts at establishing or enforcing boundaries fall apart. They feel constantly “spent” and are typically anxiously attached.
To find out if you’re selfless ask yourself these questions:
Do you have a lot of empathy and tend to extend yourself to others often putting their feelings first?
Do you struggle with abandonment issues?
Do you struggle with poor boundaries?
Do you struggle with saying no because you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings?
Do you feel more for others and the outer world and struggle with feeling and understanding what is going on inside of you?
Are you afraid of being alone?
Do you lose yourself in relationships?
Are you the giver in most of your relationships?
Do you have a shaming or mean, critical voice inside?
Do you feel like you’re enough?
If you have questions about any of your answers and would like help understanding …